What Women Want In A Man

I think this article best decribes the very qualities every woman looks for in a man and if a woman can't find such qualities, they should NOT settle for anything less. The very bare minimum qualities every worthy man should have or at least strive to have to make a great bf/partner/husband.

#1 A man who can respect her
This may seem easy to do, but do you really respect your wife or girlfriend?
Most guys always consider themselves to be know-it-alls and assume they’re better than their woman in every way. If you think your woman’s nothing but a sexy arm candy, how can you ever respect her?
Respect has to be earned, yes, but unless you truly believe that your woman has some great qualities and is even better than you in some aspects, you can never ever respect her. Learn to respect the woman in your life, and she’ll love you and respect you a lot more too.

#2 A man who can truly love her
You can gift your wife or girlfriend with pricy baubles and luxury vacations, but that’s not really the definition of love [Read: The meaning of love]. True love is shared in small ways, every single day. You don’t need to indulge in public display of affection or cuddling every evening while watching television. But you need to let your woman know in small ways how much she means to you. [Read: How to better a relationship to know all about this]
When you’re truly in love with your woman, pleasing her and compromising with either of your needs come naturally. Do you care about your woman’s feelings? Are you excited to hear about her day when you get back home? Do you look forward to spending time with your woman after work or do you get more excited to play games or watch the television? It’s the little things that really matter, and all these signs show.

#3 A man who can protect her
Women, as independent as they may be, still love to be in the company of a man they can rely upon in an edgy situation. They want to feel protected and taken care of, no matter what the circumstance. Can you be that guy? Do you think your woman really trusts that you can handle almost any troubling situation you get into?

#4 A man that she can look up to
Do you idolize or look up at anyone? All men have our own role models, whether it’s a freedom fighter, a business tycoon, an NFL player or a bodybuilder. You idolize them because those people have achieved so much and inspire you to become a better guy. If you truly want to know what women want in a man, be a man who can inspire people.
You don’t have to earn billions (would be great if you could) or win the Nobel Prize, but if you could make a difference in your own small ways, you could be that man. Be a good speaker, a great conversationalist, a great pool player, or just about anything else that’s beneficial in your life. As long as your woman is impressed with you for your skills, she’ll brag about it and love you for it!

#5 A man who is passionate
Women love a man who shows a lot of passion, not just in bed, but in everything a man believes in. Passionate men are inspiring and mysterious, and women love that.
You couldn’t care less about an explorer in the Amazonian jungles or Jack Sparrow on his escapades, but there’s something so sexy about these men. You don’t understand what it is that makes them so passionate, and this mystery only draws women to them. Be passionate about something meaningful, be it your entrepreneurial venture, your woodwork hobby or your tryst with writing a book or painting, and your woman will love you for the excitement and passion you bring into her life.

#6 A man she can trust and depend on
A trustworthy man who is dependable is hard to come by, and that’s what makes these men so sought after. It’s not that regular men can’t be dependable or trustworthy, it’s just that they don’t care enough about anything to take things seriously.
What women want in a man is dependability. A dependable man doesn’t let down his wife or girlfriend (though a rare occasion is excusable), be it the grocery list or helping her fix her furniture. To be a dependable man, you don’t need to have all the answers. You just need to be there for her, and help her in her time of need.

#7 A chivalrous man
Chivalry is old school, but it’s still something all women love and adore in a man. All men know what it takes to be a chivalrous man, but surprisingly, most men believe that being chivalrous is actually a sign of being meek and trying too hard to please a man. But contrary to what most men think, being chivalrous is not a sign of weakness, rather it’s a sign of respect by either of the sexes. By being chivalrous, it shows that you respect the woman, and be reciprocating to your chivalry, it shows that the woman respects you. [Read: How to charm a girl]

#8 A man who can groom himself
Yeah, let’s hit the basics again. You want a stunning woman with curves like a coke bottle, and a freak in bed, and a great talker and a dirty talker, and what not! And seriously, what are you offering her in return, a Homer Simpson lookalike? Seriously?
So look, the world is fair as long as you play fair and focus on reality. What women want in a man is attractiveness. If you want to be with a woman who’s everything you ever wanted to be physically, you’ve got to do whatever you can to look good for her too. Hit the gym often, go for an evening jog, or whatever works for you. Dress well and use a few manly cosmetics and rich colognes and perfumes. Look like a celebrity on the streets and women will trail you like you’re a real celebrity!

#9 A man who is ambitious
Ambitious guys could be laughed at, but when they make it big, they’re the sneering ones who can say “who’s laughing now?!” [Read: How to be successful in life]
Being ambitious is easy, but unless you do something about it and work your way towards your ambition every single day, who’s going to care who you are. An ambitious guy isn’t a guy who thinks of great things, he’s the guy who does great things. Be this guy and your woman and all other woman will love you and want you. Everyone likes a guy who can think big and achieve it. If you can ever be this guy, you’re right on top of the gene pool, and of course, pal, you’re Mr. Irresistible!

#10 A man who can dream
What women what in a man is a dreamer, be it a fantasizer in bed [Read: How to talk dirty in bed], a man who can envision his successful future, or a man who can tell magical stories while lazing on the hammock and watching the stars with his lover. Women love a man with an active imagination. Imagination is such a great companion at the end of a bad day, or while spending a romantic moment together. It’s cheerful, happy and such a burst of fresh air. Imaginative men create the best surprises, the most interesting conversations and the happiest moments in life. Seriously, which woman won’t love this guy and which man can avoid envying him?

What women want in a man
Now these ten traits may seem pretty far off for many men. But as surprising as it can seem, all these ten traits that women love are within every single man on earth. But it’s just that they don’t care enough to believe enough in themselves to be the best man they can be. [Read: What do girls like in guys?]

emotions

I made a list today of reasons why I must get over him.. This list is to serve as a reminder not to give in to my feelings anymore but to be more rational and to think before doing anything next time..

But.. I still care for him very much.. N I'm concerned for him but there is nothing I can do..

I wish the feelings would go away easily but its really difficult especially when you see that person..  Maybe I'm just a lil' emotional now at this time of the month.. One thing's for sure, God has a plan for me and there must be a reason for all of these. I'm just gonna focus on my journey with God and I just have to trust Him that He knows what's best for me.. He always does.

Hurt

I'm hurt.. very much hurt.. time and time again that person yelled at me and said the most hurtful things anyone could ever say to another. About my character, my personality, my friends, my family, my fears, my thoughts, my work, my hobbies, and even my looks. I tolerated it, although most often than not, I answered back or ran away and hide. But that didn't stop the hurt. I thought that by being offensive, it would be my best defense to feel less hurt. But again, that didn't stop the hurt.

I gave everything, mentally and emotionally. I brought down my guards and walls slowly by slowly over the years.. My safety barriers. It might have felt good at some point, but later on I realised it was only used against me. I kept telling myself, I won't be able to find someone better. He loves me, I guess he probably did.. But not the kind of love I was looking for.. I wanted free, neverending, eternal, supportive, warm, trusting, comforting, carefree love. It was more of hot, lustful, cold, bitter, sweet, restrained, obliged, bonded love. He had expectations, its not that I never did. I think I did loved him for who he was but I just needed space, trust, and the freedom to be myself. He compared me to other women and wanted me to be more like them. Maybe its a valid expectation for some people, but it just hurts. I'm not loved for who I am but for what I am expected to be.

I value someone who is responsible, caring, understanding, faithful, trustworthy, which I do find he is at times. But, all that goes away when he gets angry and he lets it out on me. I then run to my friends which always backfires because they tell me things I didn't want to hear. So I chose not to hear. It just kept hurting and hurting. There were many times even when feeling hurt, I'd be hoping he would just say sorry so I could just run back to his arms. But again, more often that not, I was left dissappointed that I still ran back and just tried to forget the hurting inside.

I tried and I tried, but the hurting kept coming back with more painful words said. One whole week of torture, crying every night without fail because that person had hurt me and had been silent for a week. I was lost, and I was hurt. I had no idea what was going on. I thought he would say sorry for hurting me. I wanted him to say sorry and that he will never do that again. I was hoping and I was just waiting to run back to him. Just waiting. But it never happened, he was now angry at me for having a male friend to turn to.

14.07.11- I read a post on LoveGivesMeHope... I teared, I just wanted to call him and tell him how upset and angry I was.. I was thinking that just maybe....just maybe... he hasn't figured it out..




But... that's when it ended.

I would have ran back to him, if he just said sorry. I really would have....

Finally, I realised it... It hit me so hard in the head and in my heart. He didn't hurt me, he never did. It was me. Yes, me all along. I hurt myself. I kept slitting my wrist deeper and deeper. I allowed myself to experience that pain, if it wasn't for me, it wouldnt have happened. If only I had love myself more and treated myself better. It wasn't his fault nor anyone else just me and only me..

I don't want to see him anymore. It would just remind me of the wounds on my wrist. My 3 and a half year old wounds... "It wasn't supposed to end this way, I was supposed to be happy....." WRONG!



Love yourself more, Shaleni. You deserve a better you.